Recently, my husband called me a “Super woman” because I was trying to manage certain things on my own, which for whatever reasons my darling husband thought I won’t be able to. I felt happy, proud and after two minutes, I felt sad. This is the true image which most men carry about women. They think we are physically weak and need support and the fact is we take advantage of this.
Being polite is so intricately woven in to the system, that men feel the urge to open the door for women, pull the chair, pay hotel bills and the list goes on. Deep inside my heart, I hear a loud scream, “stop this nonsense”. I don’t need a man to hold my hand to cross the road. I can pull my chair, open my door and I don’t mind saying “let’s go dutch tonight”. Whenever me and my husband go shopping, I feel equally responsible for the goods and I help him unload it and make it a point to lend my hand at every step. This is what feminism truly is.
If you see a man sitting in the bus, the first thought that hits our mind is, “How rude!!! Can’t he get up and offer seat to the woman standing next to him?”. But, so far we have never thought that the man sitting might be physically weak and tired compared to the woman. The whole agenda of feminism is about equality, right. If we are equal, why can’t we stand? Are we implying that we are physically weak?
In the beginning, it was about how men and women were not equal and how men overpowered women. Then came a phase of equality but I don’t know when women started acting superior to men. If we are truly feminist then the idea is about equality. Nobody is superior. You (my dear ladies) don’t need extra pair of hands for everything. We don’t want “the princess” treatment. We asked for equality and we should be extremely happy if it stops at that.
“Madam ko darwaza kholo”
“Madam ko pehle chadne do”
“Arrey madam ji, aap kyo? hum luggage utha lenge”
“Darling, when I am there why do you need to take this trouble?”
“You are the princess of my heart. I will treat you like a delicate flower” (faint!!!)
I don’t want men to be polite with me or treat me like a delicate flower!!! I am a strong, independent and level headed woman, who asks nothing more than respect and equal treatment in all domains. As much as I want my husband to help me in the kitchen, I want to help him when he is fixing IKEA furniture.
I have no qualms if a man opens the car door for a woman but all that I am saying is, let her do the same for him without making it an “eye popping out of the socket” scenario for others. Let us feel equal in every regard, let us be equal, because we are!!!
All the images are downloaded from google via different sources.